If your relationship breaks down, can you regain trust?
forward and whether your trust can be regained.
IS THIS A FIRST OFFENCE?
Everyone makes mistakes. However, giving somebody a second chance will likely be easier if this is the first time they have broken your trust and their behaviour seems out of character. It’s much harder to sustain a relationship where trust is repeatedly broken and this becomes the norm.
WHAT WERE THE PERSON’S MOTIVES?
THERE are lots of reasons why a person might break your trust, some more noble than others.
If you suspect their motives were malicious in any way, then this is going to be harder to fix than if you think they may have acted out of genuine care or concern.
WHAT ARE YOUR BOUNDARIES?
SIMPLY put, your boundaries are what is ok and what is not ok with you when it comes to your own and other people’s behaviour.
Thinking back, were you clear about your boundaries from the outset so the other person knew what was ok and what wasn’t?
Have your boundaries changed? If you think the boundaries of the relationship can be renegotiated, don’t be afraid to talk to the other person and tell them what you want and don’t want from them going forward.
Moving forward after a breach of trust is hard