Good Housekeeping (UK) - - Inner You -

1 Visit Dr Joe Oliver’s web­site con­tex­tu­al­con­sult­ing.co.uk/val­ues, 2 and print out the list of value cards. Cut out the cards and or­der them into three col­umns – ‘very im­por­tant’, ‘im­por­tant’ and ‘not im­por­tant’. As you read the de­scrip­tions, con­sider the way you try to live your life. Which val­ues do you hold clos­est? Some­times, iden­ti­fy­ing what’s not so im­por­tant will help you to re­alise what is. Re­mem­ber that you need to be com­pletely hon­est with your­self. 3 From the ‘most im­por­tant’ col­umn, pick out the six cards that hold the most sig­nif­i­cance for you. These are not in any or­der – all six are equally im­por­tant. By whit­tling it down to just six, you’re search­ing within your­self for the as­pects and prin­ci­ples that res­onate most. 4 These six are your core val­ues. Once you’ve com­pleted the ex­er­cise, keep your val­ues in mind. This way, when you come across chal­leng­ing sit­u­a­tions or peo­ple who are dif­fi­cult to con­nect with, you’ll be able to no­tice when and how the val­ues con­flict. You can then har­ness them to im­prove your re­silience and gain a bet­ter 5 un­der­stand­ing of your­self and oth­ers. Re­peat the ex­er­cise ev­ery few months to see if your val­ues shift. Learn­ing how to un­der­stand what you feel in­side helps you recog­nise when you take steps to­wards your val­ues – and when you need to work a bit harder to ful­fil them. ◆ Ac­ti­vate Your Life by Joe Oliver, Jon Hill and Eric Morris (Lit­tle, Brown) is out now.

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