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BREAK­ING THE SI­LENCE

Less than 24 hours be­fore I came across The si­lence around mis­car­riage in­val­i­dates the grief you feel (3 Dec), at a nine-week scan, I’d been told my baby had no heart­beat. My first mis­car­riage four years ago left me scared and wor­ried I would never be able to have chil­dren. It was ex­cru­ci­at­ingly painful and ex­tremely lonely. But the more open you are about it, the more you re­alise how many peo­ple have gone through it. I am lucky to have a bold and beau­ti­ful three-year-old daugh­ter and many well-mean­ing peo­ple say ‘at least you have her’, which is true. But I am a mother to three chil­dren, two of whom I never got to hold or meet. Still, it won’t de­fine me and it won’t stop me from try­ing again. Mis­car­riage is nor­mal and it must be spo­ken about to pre­pare those 1 in 4 who will suf­fer the same fate, hope­fully not in si­lence. Re­becca

BAL­ANC­ING ACTS

My so­cial life has changed but I wouldn’t says it’s ‘suf­fered’ (‘ To be a suc­cess­ful work­ing mum…’, 26 Nov). My child­hood friends will al­ways be my BFFS. Other friend­ships are more tran­sient and those through the kids ap­pear to be ‘of the mo­ment’, but they bring me great plea­sure. I have work mates where we know in­ti­mate de­tails of each oth­ers’ ‘right now’ lives but less about our past or fu­ture goals. Lots of What­sapp bants though! What I don’t have any time for is me. Read­ing a book? Ha! Louise

Read­ing Maria’s ar­ti­cle has been a breath of fresh air as that is ex­actly how I feel! Jug­gling the de­mands of run­ning a busi­ness with two teenagers, a hus­band, two spaniels and man­ag­ing a house is ex­haust­ing. Learn­ing to say no and be­ing hon­est about the reasons why is very dif­fi­cult but Maria is so

right. Some­thing has to give or ev­ery­thing will suf­fer. Tracey

I have a five-year-old son, hus­band, a few good friends and full-time se­nior role. My motto has been, ‘You can have it all but in mod­er­a­tion.’ But who am I kid­ding? Less time with my son means guilt; mod­er­ated work ef­fort af­fects per­for­mance; less time with friends equals less fun. With no ex­tended fam­ily sup­port, pre­cious lit­tle time with friends al­ready, work may have to give. Right now, ex­haus­tion, anx­i­ety and mere ex­is­tence are the or­der of the day. My New Year’s res­o­lu­tion will be bound­ary-set­ting. Marie

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