Huge support from the WI family
Earlier in the year my daughter and her ‘fella’ announced that they were to get married “Hurrah!” I shouted, “I can dress up posh, and we can have a big family do.”
She soon let it be known that it would be a quiet affair, with mainly family and close friends invited. It’s always a grand occasion when someone gets wed, an excuse to gather all your loved ones around you and celebrate. Invitations went out (as did money, from our bank account) and the months wizzed by in great expectation.
Six weeks prior to ‘The Day’, I received news that my brother had cancer, such sad news. But, today, miracles do occur, new treatments are amazing, and yes, it was going to be a difficult time, especially as he lived in the Midlands, but we would deal with it.
I went to visit him in hospital, and I immediately realised it was not good. He had cancer of the liver, lungs and oesophagus. He was unable to swallow and although had started chemotherapy, things were not going well. Within three weeks he had deteriorated so much that he was sent home with roundthe-clock care and with no further treatment or expectation of any improvement.
I visited and spent a couple of nights caring for him. It was heartbreaking. He has two daughters who, understandably were devastated, and unable to bare losing their beloved dad (their mum had died five years earlier). They were such a close family, living only yards from each other.
David died just two days before Stephanie’s wedding, approximately seven weeks after his initial diagnosis.
How do you deal with such sadness and happiness all in one go? I think knowing he didn’t have long to live allowed us to begin the grieving process in advance. I, and I think my daughter, were fearful that he would pass away the same day as she was to be married.
I know that’s sounds callous, and yes, I felt awful, even thinking about it, but we are all human, and if that had happened, however could we have coped?
Dealing with emotions, such as I have disclosed here, is difficult. We all know what it’s like to celebrate family weddings, and also how we feel when a loved one dies ... managing the two together was horrid, but with support from each other we have come out on the other side.
And, we were delighted that my brother’s oldest daughter attended the wedding.
I mentioned the support of family, well my other family, my WI family, were also unbelievably supportive, with emails and hugs whenever I saw them. It does make a difference when you are vulnerable, to know that someone really cares.
The WI is not just about education and caring for the environment ... it’s about caring for each other.
Thursday, November 22. Christmas Fair/Unwanted-Unfinished sale. Federation Office 10-1pm; Thursday, November 29. Pewter workshop. Federation Office; Wednesday, December 5. Auditions Day. Thompson Village Hall.
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