Emma’s personality is shining through but it’s leaving her brother scared
DOUBLE TROUBLE FOR A FIRST-TIME DAD OF TWINS
IT’S early days, but Emma seems to be emerging as the dominant character.
What I mean by ‘dominant character’ also has the less charitable description of ‘bully’.
A child psychologist might say a few key themes are emerging.
Thomas was crying the other night, so I went upstairs to investigate.
I opened the door to find Emma in her cot, surrounded by all of her and Thomas’ cuddly toys, holding his dummy.
She smiled and passed me the dummy in a helpful manner.
‘How nice’, I thought despite her having stripped Thomas of everything he holds dear.
Possibly the more worrying aspect is the duplicity.
She’s manipulated the situation by saying, ‘no idea what’s wrong with him, I’m here to offer assistance, none of this is my creation’.
A few days later, it was afternoon snack time in the kitchen. They’re free to roam during casual dining times, so Emma and Thomas collected their salt-free, organic, homemade fish finger and went to find a nice spot to eat it.
I watched as Thomas ran under the table, crawled under a chair and crouched in the corner where he hurriedly ate his bland fish treat. I smiled and thought ‘what a character’.
Only then did I notice Emma had finished hers and was
prowling, scanning the vicinity in a style not unlike The Terminator.
She was looking for him and his snack and he was scared of his own sister stealing from him.
It all fell into place.
We thought it was charming how Thomas collects toys and hides in the corner of the living room, obscured by the foot stool.
The terrible truth is that he’s acting out of fear, scared his own sister will aggressively deprive him of his toys.
I also realised, when he had a toy and she spotted him, he moved closer to me for protection.
Although, the truth is, she’s quite an intimidating character and often the easiest thing is to hide in a corner with Thomas.
Emma was running the house like the Krays-operated London in the 1960s, although with fewer murders, to be fair.
It was time for a rethink. Could we, as parents, have done anything differently? We’d paid them equal attention, hadn’t we? There was certainly no favouritism.
She was born first so is the oldest. She was also born a lot bigger than Thomas and remains a little chunkier.
Maybe this is the natural hierarchy upon which all early life is based.
It’s either that or women are bossy.
Are girls more domineering?