The key to a happy re­la­tion­ship?

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HAVE a guess what, ac­cord­ing to a re­cent na­tion­wide sur­vey of 2,000 cou­ples, are the big­gest con­tri­bu­tions to a happy re­la­tion­ship over many years. Go on – have a guess. You’ve ob­vi­ously got noth­ing more im­por­tant to do if you’re reading this.

Some of the answers that cou­ples gave were sur­pris­ing, well at least to me.

Like: “Knowing each other’s Pin num­bers”.

I mean, come on.

I’m all for com­mit­ting to a re­la­tion­ship 150% – but there have to be sen­si­ble lim­its!

Many ladies said that regular kisses and cud­dles – or cwtches as we say around these parts – play an im­por­tant part.

And, as long as they don’t in­volve the milk­man, I’m all for that.

Many cou­ples stick to the old adage: “Never go to sleep on an ar­gu­ment”.

So have I . . . since the night we had a tiff . . . She went to sleep on an ar­gu­ment – and I went to sleep on a sofa.

It’s also im­por­tant to be able to openly and calmly dis­cuss po­ten­tial dis­agree­ments be­fore they start to silently fes­ter over many weeks, even­tu­ally ex­plod­ing into a full-blown ar­gu­ment that ends up with crock­ery be­ing thrown, your favourite shirt be­ing at­tacked by scis­sors and the front door slam­ming as she goes off to her mother’s, vow­ing never ever to re­turn: “Even if you got down on your one good knee and begged me to come back!”

Am I speaking from ex­pe­ri­ence? Cer­tainly not!

That was all hy­po­thet­i­cal. Besides which, my knee’s much bet­ter now.

Other se­crets of happy re­la­tion­ships are hav­ing no se­crets from each other (apart from your Pin num­ber!) and be­ing di­plo­matic, ie when your good lady asks you if her bum looks big in her new skinny jeans, it’s best not to re­ply: “Can you de­fine ‘big’?”

One-fifth of the cou­ples sur­veyed said it’s im­por­tant to have two tele­vi­sion sets – in dif­fer­ent rooms, ob­vi­ously, oth­er­wise it would def­i­nitely lead to ar­gu­ments. I dis­agree.

In our house there’s just one TV and one per­son in charge of the re­mote con­trol. Al­ways.

Al­though, if I ask her nicely, she will hand it over oc­ca­sion­ally . . .

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