Make it easy on yourself
HOW are you finding 2021 so far? Not too bad? Utterly brutal? There’s no right or wrong answer. Just as there’s no right or wrong answer when it comes to how you approach a new year – whether it’s a long list of self-improvement goals and a calendar chocka with classes/workouts/ new hobbies, more of a gentle one-day-ata-time affair, or something somewhere in-between.
Do what feels right for you, and if you’re not sure what that is, or it changes week by week (hour by hour?), that’s OK.
It really is OK. One thing we can probably all agree on is that this pandemic is tough and now, more than ever, is a good time to go easy on ourselves and each other.
We asked some of our favourite folk in the wellness fields to share their thoughts on how they’re approaching 2021 and what self-care priorities and intentions they’re setting.
Just reading their answers is a tonic...
These are really tough times – so it’s totally fine to give yourself a break. ABI JACKSON asks wellness experts how they are coping
A TIME FOR HEALING AND RESTORING
SUZY READING, psychologist, counsellor and author of Self-Care For Tough Times
“NOW is not the time for striving, or grand, elaborate plans – it’s time for healing and restoring. I’m prioritising soothing my nervous system from the effects of an extended period of worry, pressure and uncertainty.
“Lots of rest, early nights, calming touch, gentle stretching, walks in nature’s beauty while I call a friend so we can journey together, and I’ll continue to choose a visual and auditory diet that is life-giving.
“These daily rituals give me time and space to process my feelings, bearing witness to my grief over lost opportunities to connect and make memories in person during 2020,” says Suzy, who’s written a series of books for adults and children on self-care and navigating challenging times.
“The past year has taught me the need to honour my boundaries and pace myself – I’ll be managing my diary carefully and keeping my energy bank topped up so I am best placed to cope with future curveballs, especially in the midst of more uncertainty.
“This is a
New Year like never before, where we need less pressure, not more.”
WHATEVER WE CAN MANAGE IS ENOUGH
AJ O’NEILL, dance and fitness instructor, coach and choreographer
HONOUR WHERE YOU’RE AT
GINA FRIEL, coach
“MY motto for 2021 is ‘honour where you’re at’. My most powerful act of self-care is to ask myself one question every morning: ‘what do I need to set myself up for the day?’.
“It’s such a simple question, but it takes me from autopilot to intentional action,” says Gina, who carved a path coaching ‘wholehearted’ women following her own journey with the chronic health condition, Premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD) which causes severe irritability, depression, or anxiety in the week or two before your period start.
“What started as a morning check-in works for any situation – ‘What do I need to set myself up for this meeting/doctor’s appointment/my period?’ – it gives me the chance to check-in with where I’m at right now, so I can support myself in the best way possible and know that
I’m honouring my everchanging needs.”
KINDNESS IS KEY
PETA COOTE, self-kindness coach
“KINDNESS, as always, is key for me. Being kind to those around me, with those I work with, and being kind to myself,” says Peta, who helps people seeking to ‘heal their relationship with food and their body’. “Getting outdoors every day for fresh air, drinking plenty of tea, and being gentle with myself will be the pillars of wellbeing for me in 2021.
“I find writing down any worries in my journal therapeutic, and moving my body in ways that feel good will keep my mind feeling good too.”