YOUR THREE-STEP ACTION PLAN

01 Focus on quality, not quantity

“Research shows that more isn’t always better when it comes to sex,” says psychologist Justin Lehmiller. “Try to ensure the sex you’re having is the best it can be. This may involve trying new things, acting on sexual fantasies, and telling each other what you really want.”

02 Watch your screen time

“We know that people feel more in the mood and more satisfied with their sex lives when they feel an intimate connection,” says sex researcher Debby Herbenick. Limit your phone use after work and spend time together taking walks, cooking, or chatting over a bottle of wine.

03 Educate yourself on ED

Among the men surveyed, 72% were concerned about erectile dysfunction (ED), even if they didn’t suffer from it. The term “performance anxiety” can “contribute to the idea that sex needs to be a production”, says therapist Shamyra Howard. It’s not. Worry less about how things go and it may go better.