TIPS TO GET YOU STARTED

START SAYING NO

‘The first time you do, it’s awkward and weird, but that’s usually how it goes when you set your first boundary. Never give a reason why you are saying no. Otherwise it gives people a chance to pick holes in your reason. If you always have to have a reason, then it undermines your no.’

WATCH OUT FOR MANIPULATION

‘When you start setting boundaries, it’s not going to be convenient for other people in your life and it makes people aware of their own boundaries. When you first set a boundary people will try and manipulate you in order to change it for their own personal gain.’

BUILD A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR BODY

‘If you aren’t aware of the feelings that exist inside yourself, then it’s harder to set boundaries. The biggest signs your boundaries are being crossed are anger and resentment. If you don’t know what that feels like in your body, then you won’t know how to rectify it.’

BELIEVE YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BEING TREATED BETTER

‘Get rid of the fear of being disliked. When you make the first step to set a boundary, it will be messy and confusing. However, to believe your time is worth something more, is huge. It all comes down to self-respect.’

HAVE A SUPPORT NETWORK

‘One of the main problems around setting a boundary with your best friend or partner is you fear of losing them. When you have a support network you have other people to rely on.’

THE Rugby League Benevolent Fund has announced the death of former London Broncos academy player Matt King.

King, paralysed from the neck down at 17, raised huge sums for the RLBF and other organisations. He was 33.