Is This New Romance Or Just Friends?
I’m a widow and was getting quite used to the idea that I would now be on my own for the rest of my life. However, I have recently met a widower and he has become a real friend. We meet for meals, have days out together and have even been talking about taking a short holiday break away. It really is lovely spending time with him, but should I look on this as a potential romance or just a friendship that I really don’t want to risk ruining?
Ican understand your concern. However, just because you are a widow does not mean that you cannot enjoy the company and pleasure of intimacy with a new person.
I am sure that your husband would want you to be happy and enjoying this phase of your life. That spark that can occur between people is so special and important. You are both on your own and, it seems, have a real connection and that’s great.
Of course, there are always people who will think differently but this is for the two of you to sort out. Having contact with another person who makes you feel good about yourself can only be positive. Enjoy it!
Your basis thus far is one of friendship and being happy together and that is good. I think you just need to progress slowly and explore each other’s past and present as and when it feels natural to do so.
There may well be a romantic side to your relationship, but my advice is to just let that happen. If this is going to move into more intimate areas then I’m sure you will both sense it when the time comes. Meanwhile don’t worry too much about the future, just enjoy what you have. The more you live in the moment the better it will be…
Just let any romance happen naturally, and you’ll sense when – or if – the time comes