How to Have a good divorce

Bec Jones, a divorce coach at couples-led divorce service amicable, shares her top tips

take your time

Divorce is tough and everyone deals with their emotions in different ways. However, being patient and understanding will make the process easier. If you were the instigator, it’s likely you’ve had time to process the separation and come to terms with what your life could look like post-divorce. This means your partner is likely to be at a different stage when you start the process and understanding this is crucial to ensuring the separation is amicable. If your ex-spouse instigated the divorce, it’s completely reasonable to feel anger, shock and denial. Make sure you deal with these emotions before starting the divorce process as they will restrict rational thinking.

Lead negotiations with knowledge, not emotion The law doesn’t care who’s in the wrong. Having realistic expectations and understanding the legal system will help you negotiate a divorce settlement amicably and efficiently.

Be Honest and open

Divorces can turn nasty quickly when people aren’t honest about what they have and what they want. Set goals for the future rather than thinking about what you are “entitled to”. Ensuring you disclose everything about your finances and assets will also help you and your ex come to a fair financial settlement and no one will be surprised by any outcomes.

see divorce as the start of a new chapter of Both your Lives

Divorce, although sad, doesn’t have to be bad. Many people have spoken about the unexpected joys of a break-up and often divorce leads people to try new things and go on new adventures. Maybe your divorce isn’t the end of your relationship, but the start

of a new friendship.

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