We slept with another couple on honeymoon!
Terri Blackley, 27, and her husband were eager to inject some excitement into their relationship
Reading the message on my phone, I couldn’t help but laugh. I was on a dating app and Lee Blackley, then 27, had just messaged me. ‘Hi Mario, I really miss you. Where have you been hiding?’ he wrote.
My profile picture was of me at a fancy-dress party, dressed as Mario from Super Mario Bros – Lee’s was of him dressed up as Luigi! His message was a great icebreaker and his cheekiness set the tone for things to come.
After sending a few silly messages, we agreed to meet up for a drink a few weeks on, in February 2015. Lee was just as funny in real life, but he had a genuine and honest side, too. When we got onto the subject of exes, Lee opened up.
‘I’ve cheated on all of my girlfriends,’ he admitted. ‘I’m not proud of it, but I just can’t help it. I get bored easily.’
Most girls would’ve panicked after hearing that, but not me. I admired his honesty, and in truth, there had been times I’d considered the same sort of thing.
‘I’ve been tempted to stray in the past,’ I confessed.
‘We’re a match made in heaven, then,’ Lee said.
We had a few more dates and, soon enough, we were a couple. We were besotted with one another – we couldn’t keep our hands off each other and our sex life was full of passion. Both adventurous in the bedroom, it seemed to me there was no chance of us getting bored.
Then, a few months into our relationship, Lee asked me something that worried me. ‘Do you miss sleeping with other people?’ he asked.
‘No!’ I replied. ‘I’m with you. Why would I want anybody else?’
Was Lee asking because he missed being with other people? We didn’t say anything more, but Lee had made me question things.
I’d always had an adventurous sex life, I’d even tried a couple of threesomes before meeting Lee and wasn’t opposed to trying it again. So, a few days later, I asked Lee if he’d ever have a threesome with me and a stranger.
‘I’m not sure,’ he replied. He thought it might cause problems in our relationship. But I didn’t agree – in fact,
I was convinced it would add even more excitement.
Lee thought about the idea for a few days, then agreed to give it a try. However, we decided to set some boundaries first.
‘It’s just sex,’ I told Lee. ‘We’ll save the passion for our own bedroom.’ And practising safe sex was a must.
‘I enjoyed watching her and Lee having sex’
We signed up to a swingers’ website – and, just days on, we got chatting to a single woman.
‘I’m a unicorn,’ she told us. It was a code word for a single person looking for a bit of fun with a couple. The woman seemed lovely, so we agreed to meet up with her at a local coffee shop to set some ground rules.
As we chatted away, to anyone else, we must have looked like old friends catching up. But had our conversation been overheard, it would’ve got people hot under the collar!
‘We’re not into bondage or fetishes,’ I told her, and I explained that, while I was happy to watch her and Lee having sex, I drew the line at kissing. Lee and I wanted to save some intimacy for ourselves, and kissing was one of those things.
A few weeks on, in June 2016, we met the woman in a hotel room. When she arrived, I felt nervous. What if Lee enjoyed it a bit too much? And what if I got jealous – would this destroy the trust between us?
Only, as the three of us began removing our clothes, my nerves disappeared, replaced with a feeling of excitement. And as things got going, I realised I loved it – and didn’t feel jealous at all. In fact, as crazy as it sounds, seeing Lee with another woman turned me on! It gave me a buzz knowing another woman fancied him, yet it was me he was going home with. Lee enjoyed himself, too.
‘I think we should do it again,’ he said afterwards. ‘But only if you want to.’
When he suggested we try swinging with another couple, I was a bit unsure. ‘How would you handle seeing me with another man?’ I asked.
But he seemed keen to try it and after a lot of thought, I agreed. We signed up to a website and started chatting to a couple online. We liked them and decided they would be the best people to try it with. Again, we met in a hotel room and the experience just made us fancy each other more. Back home, our sex life was better than ever.
Since then, Lee and I have become experienced swingers. We regularly meet other couples for sex. That’s the difference though. With strangers, it all feels like a bit of fun, but when Lee and I make love, there’s a real connection.
Some of our friends struggle to understand our decision, but we’re adamant that being swingers has helped keep the excitement in our relationship. Not once has either of us been tempted to cheat, and last June, Lee even asked me to be his wife. We were at an amusement arcade and he pulled me into a photo booth. As the camera clicked away, he got down on one knee... Of course, I said yes.
We got married in May this year. And yes, we’ve continued to go swinging as husband and wife – we even met a couple on the last night of our honeymoon in Magaluf and shared an amazing night with them. But our wedding night was reserved for just the two of us!
‘It just made us fancy each other even more’
Lee, 31, says, ‘In a bogstandard relationship, you’re always looking at making it exciting – which is what I had to do before. I was bored and I wanted more, but I couldn’t get it at home – and it made me cheat, basically. It’s more intimate when me and Terri are alone – it’s love-making, rather than having sex. It’s all about boundaries. With swinging, you build a friendship just like you would with dating. It’s just a naked friendship, really. It’s liberating in a way.’
Lee and Terri say swinging has made their relationship stronger than ever Lee proposed to Terri in a photo booth!