The good be­hind grief

Pro­fes­sor green is lead­ing the cam­paign for a national grief Aware­ness day

Now (UK) - - COME ON IN... -

When it comes to grief, many of us fo­cus on mov­ing on with­out prop­erly ad­dress­ing our feel­ings. That’s what rap­per Pro­fes­sor Green (real name Stephen Manderson) – who lost his great-grand­mother and father – hopes to change. The 35-year-old wants a na­tion­wide aware­ness day where we learn how to deal with grief. But why should we be more open about it?

‘When you lose some­one, your whole be­lief sys­tem is chal­lenged as your world no longer matches your un­con­scious mem­o­ries

– this can leave peo­ple feel­ing as if they’ve fallen off a cliff,’ ex­plains au­thor and hyp­nother­a­pist Ailsa Frank. ‘Grief can leave peo­ple anx­ious, de­pressed and less mo­ti­vated. It can re­sult in not sleep­ing or drink­ing ex­cess al­co­hol to numb emo­tions.’

In the UK, it’s be­come a prob­lem. ‘Loss is rarely dis­cussed or seen as a part of life, which means when you en­counter loss there’s no data in your mind to help you process the change.’

And the pain and phys­i­cal sense of empti­ness that grief brings – is it real? ‘We have hor­monal con­nec­tions to peo­ple which can leave you phys­i­cally yearn­ing for some­one. Be­ing aware that your pain is a chem­i­cal at­tach­ment will help you.’

Newspapers in English

Newspapers from UK

© PressReader. All rights reserved.