The good behind grief
Professor green is leading the campaign for a national grief Awareness day
When it comes to grief, many of us focus on moving on without properly addressing our feelings. That’s what rapper Professor Green (real name Stephen Manderson) – who lost his great-grandmother and father – hopes to change. The 35-year-old wants a nationwide awareness day where we learn how to deal with grief. But why should we be more open about it?
‘When you lose someone, your whole belief system is challenged as your world no longer matches your unconscious memories
– this can leave people feeling as if they’ve fallen off a cliff,’ explains author and hypnotherapist Ailsa Frank. ‘Grief can leave people anxious, depressed and less motivated. It can result in not sleeping or drinking excess alcohol to numb emotions.’
In the UK, it’s become a problem. ‘Loss is rarely discussed or seen as a part of life, which means when you encounter loss there’s no data in your mind to help you process the change.’
And the pain and physical sense of emptiness that grief brings – is it real? ‘We have hormonal connections to people which can leave you physically yearning for someone. Being aware that your pain is a chemical attachment will help you.’