JO SAYS:

It’s SO EASY in these situations to blame the person who strayed for the crumbling marriage, but I always say that people don’t cheat if they are getting their needs met in their marriage. So, it’s my opinion that there was something broken in your marriage to cause you to turn to someone else, albeit briefly. I’m not promoting adultery,

but I do know that things happen for a reason and to blame you for everything is incredibly short-sighted. I would strongly recommend you two go to marriage counselling to decipher exactly what was wrong with the marriage in the first place and see if it’s something you can both take responsibility for. You’ve apologised and do not deserve to be blamed for the rest of your life. That’s not a marriage; that’s a prison sentence!