JO SAYS:

I’m a divorcee with children, so I really understand how tricky special times like Christmas can be. After eight years of separation, I can honestly say that going slowly and steadily with the changes has been the very best thing for our children. So, I would advise that for the next few years, you aim to share your kids on Christmas Day. One of you has them Christmas Eve and Christmas morning and the other has them Christmas afternoon and Boxing Day. It’s the fairest way for everyone and it also means the children don’t feel like they have to choose between Mum and Dad. I know of other families who have two Christmas Days – one on the 25th and one on 26th. Whatever you and your ex decide I would urge you both to put the needs of the kids first and remember that it’s just a day...