Am I wasting my time?
I’m a single mum and I’ve just started dating again. I’ve been having lots of fun with a guy but he’s made it clear that being a stepdad isn’t something he wants. He says we should keep seeing each other – but is there any point? Tess, Hampshire
YES Pick Me Up! reader Sarah from Glasgow says:
I wouldn’t over think this right now. You’ve only just started dating and this is about you having fun – not finding someone to take on your kids. When things start to get serious, then you can address the issue again. For now, just relax, have fun with the relationship, and stop thinking too far ahead.
Pick Me NO Up! reader Laura from Kent says:
Whether you like it or not, dating is different when you’re a single mum. He’s been really honest with you and told you the truth. If you end up falling for this guy, it will only end in heartbreak because you come as a package. I think you’re hoping he’ll change his mind and that’s a big risk to take. Get back dating and find someone new.
What do you want from this relationship? If it’s just fun, sex and companionship then I see no reason to end it. However, he’s been very, very clear with you (good on him!) that he doesn’t want to be a stepdad, which I think is code for, ‘I don’t want a serious, long-term, committed relationship with you.’ So, you need to ask yourself what you want. If it’s a serious and settled relationship then this guy isn’t Mr Right. If it’s fun you’re after then maybe he’s Mr Right-for-now. Good luck.