Your dilemmas
Afriend and I fell out last year after a huge argument where she said some unforgivable things and betrayed my trust. She’s come to me saying she’s changed and wants to be mates again. Can people really change? Shall I give her a chance?
YES Pick Me Up! reader Tina, from Croydon says:
It must have taken a lot for your friend to admit she was wrong. And we all make mistakes when we’re young. Have you ever sat down with her and heard her side of the story? There might be some things you don’t know about – a secret struggle she had. Perhaps you should find out more before you make up your mind.
To reach out, she must be missing you. And you’re considering her request – so you must miss her too.
NO Pick Me Up! reader Lesley, from Bath says:
If you wanted to be friends with her, you wouldn’t be questioning it. It sounds as though she has really hurt you. And can you really move on from that? If she betrayed your trust once, it’s possible you’ll always be waiting to see if she does it again. The foundation of your friendship has been damaged and I would focus on other mates to get the true support you need. Keeping toxic people out of your life is essential.
Aguy I have started seeing has offered to pay for me to have a boob job. Should I accept the money? I’ve always wanted to be bigger, and he seems keen.
YES Pick Me Up! reader Sonia, from Hull says:
He’s a grown man who has listened to you when you’ve told him about something you’re unhappy with, and has offered to help - so why not? As long as he can afford it, and you make it very clear that there are no promises in return. You don’t want to feel ‘in debt’ to him. Perhaps you could simply borrow the money and pay him back? Just be very upfront from the start.
NO Pick Me Up! reader Kathy, from Oxford says:
I can’t believe you’re even considering it! Firstly, is he offering you the money because you want it, or because he wants to change you? He should like you as you are. And he might say there are no strings attached to the offer, but there will be. How can you break up with him after he’s spent so much money on you? It’s not like you’ve been together for years either. What will people think when they find out you’ve taken his money like this? This is a very bad idea indeed.