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Is my boyfriend wanting to leave? Or is he going to propose? He’s been acting suspicious lately, hiding things from me and something is up. I don’t want to say anything in case I ruin it all for myself – but should I just ask? Casey, Suffolk
YES Pick Me Up! reader Shirley from Birmingham says:
You’re going to end up overthinking this all and blowing things out of proportion if you don’t ask, so just get it over with. And the thing is… if you leave it, you could believe he is proposing when he’s not.
Imagine how heartbroken you would be if he got up and left, while you thought he was getting down on one knee. You won’t ruin anything by asking – he’s made up his mind.
NO Pick Me Up! reader Julie from North Devon says:
Keep quiet. The truth will always come out – you don’t need to dig for it, even if it may be tempting. As time goes on, I think you will get a better sense of his behaviour.
You know your partner best, so is he jittery when you ask him about working late? Could you ask your friends if they have noticed his behaviour? If he’s wanting to leave he will. So, just let everything play out in real time.
YES Pick Me Up! reader Whitney from Cardiff says:
I’m going to be honest, but if your weight has changed and you can’t recognise yourself, then this may be a good place to start. However, that being said, is that what you really want? If you feel self-conscious, then you could start practicing better eating or exercise habits – get family to support you on your journey.
If this isn’t what you want for now, what else can make you feel better? It could be hard to put yourself out there, but what about meeting friends or finding a new hobby. Not everything has to be centred around the way that you look, even if society makes you feel that way – everyone changes.
NO Pick Me Up! reader Katie from Blackpool says:
Losing weight sadly isn’t going to be an instant cure. I feel like you need to find comfort in who you are as a person, perhaps your mood or personality first.
Even if you were smaller, would you still feel like you? What makes you happy? Can you start there?
There are lots of things that you need to ask yourself – reassess what you want from life. Weight isn’t always the answer – you can recognise yourself from the inside out instead.