Should he move out for us?

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Cres­sida, 46 Tun­bridge Wells

My fi­ance won’t move out of his par­ents’ house and it’s ru­in­ing our sex life. He lost his job ear­lier this year and moved into his par­ents’ house. Since then, he’s found work and is mak­ing money – but he won’t move out. I stay over a lot as he says he’s too tired to come to mine. We have to be quiet and we’re al­ways on edge - that’s if we even get a chance! Shall I tell him to move out? I worry that he may be stressed…

YES

Pick Me Up! reader Julie Hilton says, ‘He is too tired to come to yours, de­spite you be­ing his fi­ance? That’s your first red flag! He’s stopped putting the ef­fort into your re­la­tion­ship and you’re not even mar­ried yet. If you sug­gest that you might stop go­ing round so of­ten and go out with friends in­stead, you’ll make him miss you and he might think dif­fer­ently.’

NO

Pick Me Up! reader Ann John­son says, ‘You can’t tell him to move out – or any­thing else for that mat­ter – but you can try act­ing like the lov­ing, sup­port­ive fi­ancee you’re meant to be. Your fi­ance ob­vi­ously had a ma­jor knock to his con­fi­dence when he lost his job and that might be why he’s re­luc­tant to move out. You stress­ing about sex can’t be help­ing and it’s mak­ing it sound like you care more about that than your fi­ance’s feel­ings.’

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