Should he move out for us?
Cressida, 46 Tunbridge Wells
My fiance won’t move out of his parents’ house and it’s ruining our sex life. He lost his job earlier this year and moved into his parents’ house. Since then, he’s found work and is making money – but he won’t move out. I stay over a lot as he says he’s too tired to come to mine. We have to be quiet and we’re always on edge - that’s if we even get a chance! Shall I tell him to move out? I worry that he may be stressed…
Pick Me Up! reader Julie Hilton says, ‘He is too tired to come to yours, despite you being his fiance? That’s your first red flag! He’s stopped putting the effort into your relationship and you’re not even married yet. If you suggest that you might stop going round so often and go out with friends instead, you’ll make him miss you and he might think differently.’
Pick Me Up! reader Ann Johnson says, ‘You can’t tell him to move out – or anything else for that matter – but you can try acting like the loving, supportive fiancee you’re meant to be. Your fiance obviously had a major knock to his confidence when he lost his job and that might be why he’s reluctant to move out. You stressing about sex can’t be helping and it’s making it sound like you care more about that than your fiance’s feelings.’