Your dilemmas

Q My new boyfriend is the opposite of me. I’m a home body while he loves to go out. I like to holiday close to home while he has plans for holidays abroad. There’s no doubting the attraction between us but we’re a lost cause, right?! Tess, Bournemouth A There is strong attraction between the two of you which is a great basis on which to build a strong relationship but good relationships need, amongst other things, understanding, compromise and trust.

I definitely don’t think that the differences in how and where you each like to spend your time at home and abroad mean that you can’t be happy together, but you do need to work out how you can happily work around these differences.

Talking about them and how you both feel will help you to understand more about each other.

Work out compromises so that, as a couple, you do an equal share of what each other like doing. If you care about each other, you will understand the importance of doing so.

If you love and trust each other, you should be comfortable with your boyfriend going out on his own with friends sometimes and he should be happy to stay home with you too.

If you can’t both respond positively to each other’s needs, it may be that your relationships isn’t going to work long-term.

Compromise, trust and understanding are definitely key to working it all out.