SEX AND RELATIONSHIP EXPERT
We asked LELO’S sex and relationship expert, Kate Moyle, to shed a light on sharing nudes, exploiting victims and the long- term effects of revenge porn…
Why have intimate images become so ‘normal’ in society?
Technology has completely changed the way that we communicate. We are constantly in touch with our partners, either via text, or pictures, sharing our worlds with each other in this way.
And so, sharing images sexually has also become a part of that.
When is it safe to send your partner nude photos?
There is always a risk online because we are vulnerable to hacking. However, it is also about your relationship with the person you are sending them too, and if, in the future, that relationship changes.
Communication and boundaries are key to feeling comfortable sharing images between one another, and setting rules around saving/screenshotting/sharing.
Another thing to consider is including your face in intimate photos. It can feel safer not to.
Why do offenders share explicit photos online without consent?
Every offender will have their own reasoning or explanation for doing what they have, but for many, the intention is to shame, humiliate and cause distress to their victim. Many cases are ex-partners seeking revenge in some way.
How does revenge porn affect victims?
‘Revenge pornography is a violation of trust, consent and privacy and this can cause high levels of distress, shame and embarrassment.
It can massively impact relationships, friendships, self-esteem, confidence and mental health.
The process of reporting revenge porn, or opening up to a friend or family member, can be incredibly challenging.
It can also have a big ongoing impact on sex lives and relationships, as trust is a cornerstone of being intimate with someone again.