Come out swinging

Ruby Lynne, 57, started swinging after her sex life ran dry, now she knows the true meaning of orgasmic bonking!

Watching on as bodily fluid drenched the sheets, I couldn’t believe my eyes. Is she a squirter? It was the first time I’d ever experienced or saw another woman climax in that way!

And with swinging, there were always first times for everything.

After coming out of a long-term marriage that was not very satisfying in the bedroom, over 15 years ago, it was the perfect chance for me to explore.

My ex-husband was very jealous, so I knew I didn’t want to get stuck in a relationship where I couldn’t be sexually satisfied ever again.

Being non-monogamous was a part of that.

And I’d found that missing piece by trying out swinging.

Joining a swinger’s club in Portland, US, it was a chance to spice things up.

And when meeting my partner Rex, it was a conversation that we had very early on.

‘This is what I want in a relationship,’ I admitted.

‘I’m into it!’ Rex agreed.

And since that moment, we’ve been attending the meet and greet sessions at the club, once a month, for 15 years.

When it comes to choosing a couple, we are more about personality than we are looks. Hygiene is very important, too. At the club, consent is a must as well as wearing protection.

You can’t touch without asking. As our swinging has evolved, there have been memorable moments – the lady who squirted a funny one for me. It’s meant that over the years, we’ve learnt to ‘take one for the team’. Sometimes being in a quad doesn’t work as there can be some technical difficulties and I’ve been left hanging. So, threesomes work better – and I get all the attention if it’s two guys! We’ve never had any jealousy, as we have so many conversations about every scenario anyway. Yet, the first time I saw Rex climax with another woman, I did feel taken aback. However, I’ve had to reframe my mindset.

Why would I be upset that Rex had fun? He deserves it. And when he caught me in the act with another man, I’m sure he felt the same.

It wasn’t long before I asked him to join in.

That’s the joy of swinging. And it’s something I will do for as long as I can.

Give it a go! ● Follow @iamrubylynne on Instagram for more