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“S he had such an in­no­cent face,” says Chris­tine of their first meet­ing, “she seemed like a re­ally sweet girl.” Talia re­calls be­ing scared and shy at first but found she en­joyed talk­ing to Chris­tine. “Chris­tine is spe­cial for the lit­tle things she does for me,” she says, re­call­ing the many lov­ing notes she has left for her over the years. Chris­tine loves that Talia is so calm and says, “She has such soft in­ten­tions with me. She is the per­fect bal­ance to ev­ery­thing I am. She makes me a bet­ter per­son.”

They de­cided to get mar­ried about four years into their re­la­tion­ship. The pro­posal came dur­ing a ro­man­tic bike ride to the beach near where they live. They im­me­di­ately called friends and fam­ily to share their ex­cit­ing news. They knew they wanted to be to­gether for­ever.

One of the first things they did as a mar­ried cou­ple was pur­chase a house. The house needed a lot of work be­fore it would feel like a home. But af­ter count­less hours re­mod­el­ing and ren­o­vat­ing, the house fi­nally felt like home. They even had one room they were hop­ing to turn into a child’s nurs­ery. “The de­ci­sion to have a baby was al­ways in the plan for us,” says Chris­tine, “we knew we both wanted to be moth­ers and cre­ate a fam­ily to­gether.”

Be­ing in a same-sex re­la­tion­ship has brought some unique chal­lenges. When they told their fam­ily and friends about their plans to start a fam­ily, they were ini­tially con­cerned. But Chris­tine and Talia found tremen­dous sup­port from their fam­i­lies.

“They are so en­cour­ag­ing of our re­la­tion­ship and ex­cited for our jour­ney to be­come moth­ers,” com­ments Chris­tine. With the help of those who loved them, they de­cided they were ready.

They needed a sperm donor and started their search on­line. They knew they wanted their ideal sperm donor to have a good health his­tory. Hav­ing a healthy donor was their top cri­te­ria. Sev­eral sperm banks were on­line but one in par­tic­u­lar stood out for their thor­ough se­lec­tion process. Fairfax Cry­obank had the rep­u­ta­tion for do­ing more ge­netic and in­fec­tious dis­ease test­ing than any other sperm bank. “There was a qual­ity you could not find with any other sperm bank,” says Chris­tine. “That is what drew us to Fairfax.” (For clients in the UK, Fairfax Cry­obank has a web­site that shows only the UK com­pli­ant donors: www.fair­fax­cry­obank.co.uk )

The on­line donor search was an easy way to look through all the donor op­tions. “When choos­ing a donor you can get as spe­cific as you want to,” says Talia. They used se­lec­tion tools like height, eye colour, hair colour and skin tone to help nar­row their search. They could lis­ten to free au­dio clips of the donor and read about the staff im­pres­sion of the donor’s per­son­al­ity and ap­pear­ance. “You get to know the per­son,” says Chris­tine.

Many of the donors have adult photo sets avail­able. Only Fairfax of­fers the op­tion to up­load a photo of some­one they want the donor to re­sem­ble, called Fairfax FaceMatch ™, and present the donors that are most sim­i­lar.

Chris­tine and Talia made a donor choice, or­dered the vials and started their jour­ney. They have spo­ken pub­li­cally about their plans to have a fam­ily in the hopes of help­ing other cou­ples who might feel alone or wor­ried about hav­ing chil­dren in a same-sex re­la­tion­ship. They cre­ated a YouTube chan­nel – We Wanna Be Mom­mies — and have shared the highs and lows of their jour­ney. It has been an ex­cit­ing ride, some­times stress­ful and some­times dis­ap­point­ing.

And ul­ti­mately it has been joy­ful. Talia is now preg­nant and ex­pect­ing in early 2016.

“The de­ci­sion to have a baby was al­ways in the plan for us, we knew we both wanted to be moth­ers and cre­ate a

fam­ily to­gether”


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