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My partner and I have both been working from home for a while and, at first, we had fun taking lunchtime strolls and tea breaks together. But now we seem to be in a bit of a rut. Workdays blend into evenings and every day passes in a blur. We don’t have as much to say to each other because we are in the same space all the time. How can I keep work out of my relationship at home and keep our love alive?

Resilience and wellbeing coach Katherine Darbyshire Evans specialises in helping women overcome life’s hurdles and learn to thrive in love and work

AWorking from home together for a long period can slip into what feels like a tiresome situation. To help you escape the humdrum and enjoy your time together, explore these options:

Be honest about how you feel and explain your needs to your partner. Talk about the highs and lows of your daily lives. Communication builds intimacy.

Share your emotions. Set a boundary between work and play.

Have separate workspaces

if possible and agree when you start and finish work.

Respect the need for time alone.

Give each other space. Connect with others without your partner to give you external subjects to talk about.

Plan shared activities that you both enjoy: Cook a meal, watch a film or do an online quiz with friends. Sign up for a new joint activity. Get out for a walk to reduce stress and strengthen your bond.

Make time for fun. Remind both of you what you love and appreciate about your partner.

Thank your partner for all that they do and tell them why you are grateful for them.

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