Work it out

Resilience is not about being tough and rigid. It’s about being flexible and adaptable, with an ability to bounce back from setbacks. The willow tree survives the storm because it bends and sways in the wind, but the rigid, unbending oak tree is likely to fall. So, try this exercise and make the decision to be a willow, not an oak.

Improving resilience can increase feelings of wellbeing and give you a sense of control and self-efficacy. Being resilient is about having an acceptance that there will be difficulties in life, and it is about having the ability to learn from the setbacks and move on. Resilience means having the courage to get on with life and follow our goals and dreams, despite the risks and potential failures. Resilience is about having an ability to identify what you are feeling, to regulate your feelings, and to be able to recognise the feelings of others.

Take some time and space to reflect on the following questions to understand yourself and learn more about your resilience:

● Think about times when things have gone well for you and times when things haven’t gone so well.

● How did you respond in both cases? What was helpful or unhelpful to you?

● What did you learn about yourself from those events?

● Who do you turn to for support when you are having a difficult time? Make a list of your cheerleaders or support team.

● What gives your life meaning?

● How have you been able to overcome large and small obstacles and challenges in your life?

● What thoughts, activities or people help you feel more hopeful about the future?

● Which experiences in life have led to the most growth or positive changes for you?