Mum to Mum

Wendy’s wor­ried she’s over­work­ing her golden oldies

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Busy grand­par­ents

Gulp­ing down their last few spoon­fuls of pasta, I dou­ble-checked that my twin sons had ev­ery­thing they needed. ‘Clean pants for tomorrow?’ I asked them.

‘Mum,’ wailed Alex, nine, ‘leave it out.’

‘Home­work books?’ I nod­ded to his brother, James.

‘Yes, Mum,’ he mut­tered. My boys have been pack­ing their own overnight bags since they were tots, but I still liked to check on them. Some­thing I know they hate! Bags in hand, we headed off to my par­ents’ house.

My mum, Eileen, 66, and dad, Stan, 73, only live five min­utes away, and are su­per hands-on grand­par­ents.

Not only are they valu­able back-up, they’ll also babysit at the drop of a hat, and they’re in the au­di­ence for ev­ery mu­si­cal per­for­mance and school play.

Since the boys were lit­tle, my folks have taken them overnight ev­ery Wed­nes­day, to give me and my hubby, Stephen, 41, a break.

As a busy mum of twins with a part-time job in prop­erty rental man­age­ment, it can be hard to jug­gle ev­ery­thing.

Plus, my boys do love spend­ing time with them.

Dad’s al­ways up for kick­ing a foot­ball round the gar­den. And, if James man­ages to steer one into the gap be­tween the two bushes, Dad cheers as if it’s 1966!

Pick­ing the boys up next day, I thanked Mum for hav­ing them. ‘You know we love it,’ she said. ‘Say bye-bye to Nanna and Gran­dad,’ I chirped.

That evening, I tucked them in bed and headed down­stairs.

‘Sounds like they had a great time with your par­ents,’ Stephen, an en­gi­neer, smiled. ‘They’d be lost with­out them.’

Even though it was just a pass­ing comment, Stephen’s words stayed with me all night.

I lay awake, won­der­ing what on earth I’d do with­out Mum and Dad. Then, I wor­ried that I was putting too much on them.

I know they wouldn’t have it any other way, but they do so much. Maybe too much?

I’m ex­hausted after a day of run­ning around after the twins, so good­ness knows how they feel!

Also, I won­der if the boys re­alise that my par­ents – while they’re fit and healthy, touch wood – can’t al­ways keep up with them? The kids could be run­ning them ragged, but they’d never say.

Since pick­ing up on this, I’ve no­ticed that Mum and Dad do loads more than any of my friends’ par­ents.

The last thing I want is to of­fend them or sound un­grate­ful, so how do I find out if it’s get­ting to be too much for them?

And how can I make my boys aware that Nanna and Gran­dad are get­ting older, with­out scar­ing them?

Wendy Free­man, 44, Mid­dle­ton, Gtr Manch­ester

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