LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX
Wishing you and your partner were more intimate? Follow our expert advice on how to get your love life back on track
‘Scheduling in sex with your partner is a great way of reclaiming intimacy’
Great sex with the perfect partner is the dream. But life doesn’t always work out like that, and when sex isn’t on the cards – for whatever reason – it can take its toll.
‘It’s not so much the act of sex that’s important, but the affection surrounding it,’ explains psychosexual and relationship therapist Aoife Drury. ‘The absence of sex affects everyone differently, but regular hugs, kisses and touching are proven to increase intimacy and raise levels of oxytocin, the “love hormone”, in the body.’
Whether you’re single or in a relationship, everyone deserves sexual wellness. So we spoke to the experts about how to overcome some common issues.
‘I have a high sex drive’
Masturbating is something that most of us do, yet rarely talk about, despite the fact it’s completely natural – and even good for you. ‘Self-pleasure is important whether you’re in a relationship or not,’ says psychosexual and relationship therapist Silva Neves. If your sex drive is higher than your partner’s, take the pressure off by prioritising some ‘metime’ with the Myviv Pebble Personal Massager, to help you hit the spot.
‘WE CAN’T GET OVER PAST INFIDELITY’
‘When a couple is ready to have sex again after an infidelity, taking it slow is key,’ advises Neves. ‘The betrayed partner needs to feel in control. Take penetration off the pedestal and remove any pressure to orgasm. It’s more important to simply enjoy yourself, and each other.’ Start to re-establish the intimacy between you with some light touching using Myviv Bergamot Massage Oil.
‘I DON’T HAVE TIME FOR SEX’
Between work stress and your social calendar, creating headspace for your sex life can feel daunting. ‘It’s easy to become preoccupied with other things, but the trouble starts when the communication between you and your loved one breaks down,’ says Drury. She recommends scheduling in sex with your partner. ‘It’s a great way of reclaiming intimacy.’ Get things started with Myviv Water-based Lubricant.