Are you an intimate terrorist?
Controlling, aggressive ... and women are worse than men
CONVENTION has it that women are the gentler sex.
But when it comes to relationships they are more likely than men to be controlling and aggressive, a study claims.
Increasing numbers of women can now be classed as ‘intimate terrorists’ in which they are more verbally and physically violent towards a partner.
Psychologists at the University of Cumbria questioned 1,104 young men and women using a scale of behaviour which ranged f rom shouting and insulting to pushing, beating and using weapons.
And they discovered that women were ‘significantly’ more likely to be verbally and physically aggressive to men than vice versa.
They concluded that violence was linked to controlling behaviour such as checking up on partners and persuading them not to see certain friends.
The term ‘intimate terrorism’ was coined in the 1990s when US sociologist Michael P Johnson used it to define an extreme form of controlling relationship behaviour involving threats, intimidation and violence.
He said men were almost always responsible, and the phrase gained notoriety when TV cook Nigella Lawson claimed that she had been subjected to acts of ‘ i ntimate terrorism’ by her ex- husband, Charles Saatchi.
But the latest research turns the accepted view on its head.
Study leader Dr Elizabeth Bates said: ‘The stereotypical popular view is still one of dominant control by men. That does occur but research over the last ten to 15 years has highlighted the fact that women are controlling and aggressive in relationships too.’
She said scientists may have to think again about the reasons for male violence against women, which previous studies said arose from ‘patriarchal values’ in which men are motivated to seek to control women’s behaviour, using violence if necessary. She said other research
‘More support
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also looked at men in prisons and women in refuges, rather than typical members of the public.
The study team were surprised at the level of violence shown by some women, revealed in answers to an anonymous questionnaire.
Dr Bates, who presented her find- ings at the British Psychological Society’s Division of Forensic Psychology annual meeting in Glasgow, said: ‘It wasn’t just pushing and shoving. Some people were circling the boxes for things like beating up, kicking, and threatening to use a weapon.’
She added that men may also be starting to report the issue more often. ‘A contributing factor could be that in the past women have talked about it more,’ she said.
‘The feminist movement made violence towards women something we talk about.
‘Now there is more support for men and more of them are feeling comfortable coming forward.’
The analysis showed that, while women tended to be more physically aggressive towards their partners, men were more likely to show violence towards members of the same sex, including friends.