It’s the last tolerated prejudice. But Femail’s had enough. It’s time we called out those day-to-day moments when we’re patronised for no longer being young...
MOST people were complimentary when I dyed my hair grey to match my roots last year. One friend however, who I bumped into recently, admitted she didn’t like it because being grey made me look older.
This friend is known for her honesty and I appreciate her for not pretending she liked it, but it made me reflect. Was it an error to go grey before I needed to?
I’ll sometimes catch a glimpse of myself in a shop window and think, ‘Who is that older woman?’ before realising it is me.
On the other hand, is it so bad to look one’s age? Over the years, I’ve spent way too much time and money on procedures — Botox, filler, hair dye — to look younger. Increasingly, I’m beginning to think, to what end?
I’m not talking about giving up here, but an aesthetic that isn’t based on youth. If wrinkles and grey hair can be attractive on a man, couldn’t they be sexy on a woman, too?
Or is female beauty always going to be a slave to our perceived fertility?
We need to invent a new non-ageist category. In the interim, I’ll be holding onto the grey, and if in the coming months my face looks a little less fixed, you’ll know I’ve put my money where my mouth is.