“A trusted vet should always give you an honest opinion”

should be able to eat, walk, sleep and meet you happily at the door without experiencing great discomfort. Make up your own mind and try to ignore “helpful” advice from those who don’t really know your dog. A trusted vet should always give you an honest opinion. My general advice is that, if you are in two minds, you should continue, as there will come a point that you are sure.

What are the options?

No one likes to think about it but it is best to look at all the options and make an informed decision well before emotion starts to cloud our judgement. In law, your dog is your property and it is legal for you to euthanase him or her as long as you do so humanely. I know of a number of individuals who have the courage and compassion to take an old dog for a last walk and then bury them on the hill. It is not for some, I understand, but at least it is a course of action to consider. For most, however, euthanasia will involve your veterinary surgeon who will administer an intravenous injection, which will cause your faithful friend to pass away in a manner similar to an anaesthetic. My preference is not to sedate animals first, unless they are very anxious or aggressive, as this only prolongs the trauma and makes intravenous injection more difficult. Unless I have a very experienced owner, I prefer a veterinary nurse to help, leaving owners free to get close to their pet. Of course you do not need to stay with them — and people who fear they may become hysterical should not — but it is almost certainly better if you do, not least because you may find comfort in seeing how painless and peaceful it is and they will appreciate your presence.

Where?

Whether euthanasia is carried out at the home or at the veterinary practice depends on personal preference. Dogs that enjoy a visit and who are then to be cremated are probably best taken to the vets. If you intend to bury at home, then a house visit — as long as your dog will not be alarmed at the intrusion — is a good idea. If possible, see if you can arrange a favourite vet to be available. Decide in advance whether you wish to have a burial, a simple cremation or cremation with return of your pet’s ashes. Since there is a plethora of options for caskets, speak to your vet and agree on your wishes now before you are put on the spot at a most difficult time.

Have a familiar blanket ready, a firm view of what you wish to happen to their remains and a stout heart. You can most definitely make things less stressful for all with a little aforethought. I wish you well.