Sex matters

I’m fully aware that my partner enjoys two types of sex. He has safe, vanilla love with me and wild, anything goes passion with his mistress. He claims that she’s no threat to me, on the contrary, he says she’s what keeps him sane and us together. Without his fortnightly visits to her, we’d have split a year ago. I get it that he struggles in a highpressured job, but why does he continue to humiliate me in this way when he doesn’t even try to hide her existence? You need to break this situation by taking yourself away somewhere – to a friend or trusted relative – and really think about your life and where you want to go from here. If your partner’s mistress is totally unacceptable to you, then he has to hear that you refuse to continue to play this game. You must consider your sexual health and your self-respect. Don’t allow him to convince you that this situation is a good thing, because you don’t have to put up with it.