Sex matters

My other half cannot get over my past. He’s just moved back into his own flat because he can’t stand to think of me with other men. This is so unfair. I didn’t meet him until

I was 35. I was newly divorced and looking for love. During our first dates I was scrupulously honest about the five guys I slept with between the age of 16 and my marriage – and he told me about his far more colourful sexual history. I accuse him of double standards, but he says it’s different for men. Why is that?

If your partner is looking for a way out of this relationship, then he needs to start being honest about that. He can’t throw your past back in your face because you’ve done nothing to be ashamed of. I think it’s just a flimsy excuse. You were a divorcee of a certain age, what did he expect? Wish him well and get on with the rest of your life.