Toxic exes are holding me back

Do future boyfriends need to hear about my shameful dating past? I’m recovering from a coercive relationship. For years I allowed my ex to control me. Before that I dated a couple of bad boys who weren’t much better. I’m considering online dating but am embarrassed by my foolish choices.

Your personal history is your business. You’re not obliged to tell anyone your story. Very sadly, you were involved with some unpleasant characters as

a younger person, but it’s the future that matters now.

Read up on safe online dating at brook.org.uk. Don’t ever feel ashamed of yourself.

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