He’s turning into a kept man

I’m angry with my partner for not pulling his weight. When we met, my dog grooming business was in its infancy. Now I’m doing well with a large salon and loyal client list. I’m busy six days a week but he’s pretty much given up driving his minicab.

Instead, he hangs out with his parents and mates while I do all the heavy lifting. Admittedly my earnings cover our bills, but I resent that it’s suddenly up to me to provide.

Being a gentleman of leisure might be a novelty for your man at the moment, but I fear he will soon become bored and lose his sense of purpose. Routine and structure are good for our mental well-being. Maybe cab driving isn’t right for him, but what else can he do? Is there a role for him within your organisation? He has to hear you need someone who is as ambitious as you are.

If the rot of resentment has already set in, then it’s in both of your interests – for the sake of your relationship – to find a solution and share the load.