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How do I confront family bill cheat?

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Whenever we do anything as an extended family, like go on holiday or contribute to a gift, my brother-in-law acts as the treasurer. He collects the funds and pays the bills.

But I’m convinced he creams off a percentage. I don’t drink and more than once, I’ve worked out some figures don’t add up in restaurant­s and bars. Dare I say something when he’s a strong character? Trust your instincts and draw a line. Don’t make accusation­s

you can’t back up but insist on paying your own bills in future. If that makes you look difficult, that’s too bad. Your brother-inlaw may think he’s onto a good thing, but nothing gives him the right to take a cut.

What does your spouse think? Confrontin­g your brother-in-law could be tricky if he’s as devious and self-centred as you suggest and you’re probably keen to avoid a scene. Sadly, there are always people who are looking to take advantage. He might be a relative, but you have to start being one step ahead.

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