1 you never listen to me

We argue with our partners about the stuff we care about – things that upset us or that feel important. Being listened to isn’t the same as being agreed with, but there’s huge value in finding better ways to ‘hear’ each other and be more understanding of different styles of communicating.

Make time to discuss how you’re doing, and talk about important things when there

are no distractions. Listen to each other’s point of view without interrupting and never underestimate the power of saying sorry for how you have made someone feel. Acknowledge how your partner feels, even if you don’t agree with them – it shows you have listened – and don’t start conversations with blame. “It seems difficult for us to talk about this” is much better than, “You’re so rubbish at listening.”