Her lack of ambition is a sexual turn-off

My girlfriend’s lack of ambition is proving a turn-off. She has a good job but isn’t interested in rising through the ranks. Not only does she turn down promotions, but she snubs offers from rival firms, too.

She says she’s happy with her salary and has no desire to pursue a challenging career. I’m the opposite. I’m all about making money and being my own boss. Suddenly sex feels

flat with someone who has no spark. How do I fire her up? You need to respect your girlfriend’s stance. An allconsuming career isn’t for everyone. If she’s not motivated by status or cash then, clearly, her situation suits her well.

If her mental health is stable and she’s maintaining her energy, she’s found her level. Perhaps she derives more satisfaction from hobbies, volunteering or supporting friends and family? We’re all different. Talk to her about your sex life and ways you could perk it up – together.