My friend is showering me with over the top gifts

Our agony aunt gets to the heart of your relationship problems

How do I explain to a friend that she’s overwhelming me? She’s a lovely woman but the gifts and attention she bestows are way over the top.

Recently, I hosted a landmark birthday party. Her presents cost more than my husband’s offerings. As well as designer jewellery and a cashmere pashmina, she gave me a luxury candle and smellies too.

In everyday life she’s a great one for popping round with everything from croissants to handy gadgets.

I can’t help feeling that she is attempting to “buy” my friendship. Also, I don’t have the energy, inclination or money to reciprocate.

Get in now before she starts shopping for Christmas. Explain that you’re actively paring everything back and that you’d like to stop the gift giving.

Make it clear that you have a lot on your plate right now and need to concentrate on family and work. Clearly, she wants to be your pal, but you can’t have anyone around who drains you and makes life harder.

Hopefully she’ll understand that you need your space. Be honest, but firm.