Ask Anne Ex makes My ‘2nd chance’ isn’t after love a big deal out of my cheating

My wife died a few years ago and I’ve met a woman with whom I have a lot in common. We met walking our dogs and now we visit each other and go out for dinner. Life is fun again.

But she only wants to be friends, while I want romance. We’re in our 60s. Do I push things or back off? My ex is being really vindictive, talking me down to our friends and briefing against me at work.

We had a really civilised and friendly break-up but she’s since discovered that I was unfaithful to her during our three-year relationship.

Yes, I admit, I had a couple of flings, but they were never important. It shouldn’t matter now, should it? But she seems to be punishing me for something that isn’t relevant any more and it’s making my life a misery.