WHY I WON’T GRIEVE FOR DAD

Tear­ful Tara, 22, says she may not go to father’s fu­neral

Sunday Mirror (Northern Ireland) - - Front Page - BY SCARLET HOWES [email protected]­plc.com

FRED­DIE Starr’s daugh­ter is so ashamed at hav­ing him for a father she may not even go to his fu­neral, she re­vealed last night.

Tara Coleman-Starr, 22, wept as she told how the comic superstar – who died of a heart at­tack at 76 on Thurs­day – was a self­ish brute who:

PUNCHED her preg­nant mum in the stom­ach and de­manded she have an abor­tion.

WALKED OUT on her when she was just a six-month-old baby.

Came back in to her life – only to call her a SPITEFUL girl who de­served “the world’s big­gest slap”.

TER­RI­FIED her so much she locked her­self in a bath­room as he warned her: “You can run but you can’t hide.”

And left her so TRAU­MA­TISED she needed ther­apy from the age of 14.

Tara told the Sun­day Mir­ror she can’t grieve for him and said: “No one wants to be­lieve their dad is an evil, ma­nip­u­la­tive man. He never gave me a birth­day present or Christ­mas card. He never tried to be a father.

“I don’t think he’s ca­pa­ble of love. I’m em­bar­rassed to be his daugh­ter.”

Tara, one of Fred­die’s six chil­dren, has spo­ken out just days after the co­me­dian was found dead at his flat in Spain’s Costa del Sol, on Thurs­day fol­low­ing a heart at­tack.

Once the na­tion’s favourite TV en­ter­tainer earn­ing £2mil­lion a year, he died bloated, pen­ni­less and alone.

Tara said: “As a per­former he was amaz­ing. I un­der­stand why peo­ple loved him. But that was a per­sona.

“He was two dif­fer­ent peo­ple. On stage funny and a great co­me­dian – off stage, self­ish and vi­o­lent. Me and my mum saw the real per­son.”

Fred­die met Tara’s mother Trudy Coleman in 1994 when she was a TV pro­duc­tion man­ager.

He pro­posed while di­vorc­ing sec­ond wife Sandy – mum of three of his chil­dren.

His cheat­ing had al­ready cost his 12-year marriage to first wife Betty Simp­son.

In 1998 Trudy be­came preg­nant. But Tara said: “He punched my mum in the stom­ach and told her he was go­ing to leave her if she didn’t abort me.

“He didn’t want com­pe­ti­tion for mum’s af­fec­tion.”

Fam­ily snaps show Fred­die dot­ing over Tara on hol­i­day, but he was soon cheat­ing – with shop as­sis­tant

Donna Smith, 27 years his ju­nior. “He showed me in­ter­est as a baby and played happy fam­i­lies. But he quickly got bored,” Tara said.

“Mum found out he was cheat­ing on her with Donna.

“She had a light­bulb mo­ment and felt she didn’t want to put me through what she had gone through. He turned around and told her he wanted noth­ing to do with me. He was so ag­gres­sive she was scared I was in dan­ger, so she packed up her bags and left.”

Sad Tara added: “I al­ways thought it was my fault he’d left. I could never un­der­stand why he didn’t want me. That’s very tough for a lit­tle girl.”

Eight years later the comic – now mar­ried and di­vorced from Donna – re-ap­peared. Tara re­called: “After pick­ing me up from school, mum said, ‘You’ll never guess who’s wait­ing for you at home.’ I said, ‘It’s my dad.’ I just had this feel­ing.

“I re­mem­ber walk­ing into his house and he was there.

“I didn’t know how to feel be­cause I had so many ques­tions and he was happy to see me and he was smil­ing.

“He sat me on his lap and said how sorry he was and how much he missed me. But he was only try­ing to use me to get back to­gether with mum.

“When she made it clear that wasn’t go­ing to hap­pen, he stopped and showed his true colours.

“He had brought a CD of him singing for me to lis­ten to. I asked him to play in the garden first. He got very ag­gres­sive and nasty.

“He said mum had done an aw­ful job bring­ing me up and I was a nasty lit­tle girl. He said if he’d been around I’d have turned out bet­ter. Then he drove off. It was aw­ful.”

Dog groomer Tara, who lives with

her mum in Soli­hull, West Mids, didn’t see Starr for an­other six years.

When she was 13 the mil­lion­aire took her to a local Burger King, then stayed around for six weeks.

In a phone call his rage re-emerged. “I tried to joke with him and told him to shut up over the phone in a playful way.

“He slammed the phone down and called me back shout­ing. He told me how dare I tell him to shut up. He said I was spiteful and said: ‘If I’d been there I would have given you the world’s big­gest slap.’” An­other time he was so ag­gres­sive Tara was left cow­er­ing in the bath­room.

“It was just me and him in the house and he was mad about some­thing,” Tara said. “I knew he used to beat mum. I was scared as I knew what he was ca­pa­ble of. So I locked my­self in the bath­room.

“I’ll never for­get what he said, ‘You can run but you can’t hide’. It was so scary. Then he got in his car and left. Those words haunt me.” The last time Tara saw Fred­die she was 15 and he was mar­ried to Sophie Lea – who later di­vorced him over claims he gave her a black eye.

“He was watch­ing Jeremy Kyle,” she said. “I’d gone round to see him at Sophie’s house but he wouldn’t even look at me. “I got a text mes­sage and he went mad. “He said how dare I go on my phone and fol­lowed me into the kitchen yelling. Sophie held him back. He told me to leave so I did. I never saw him again.”

To­day, de­spite ther­apy, Tara still suf­fers from Starr’s mental and emo­tional abuse. “I have no self-con­fi­dence be­cause he con­stantly told me I was bad,” she said.

“I thought he loved me but it turned out he was just try­ing to get with my mum. I don’t think he ever loved any­one.”

Tara said she was “numb” when she found out about her father’s death in a text from a friend.

“I didn’t know how to feel,” she re­vealed. “This man was aw­ful 95 per cent of my life but five per cent of it we had a laugh.

“He’s still my dad so there’s a lot of sad­ness. Now I’ll never get clo­sure.

“He’ll never be able to say I’m sorry. Fred­die, who was brought up in a chil­dren’s home in Liver­pool, was es­tranged from all his wives and his six chil­dren. But Tara still feels pity.

She said: “He was a prod­uct of his en­vi­ron­ment. He was abused. That’s why he was so ag­gres­sive to women. I think he had some­thing wrong with him.”

She added: “If there was a fu­neral it would be a very tough call whether to go.” Now she has one wish.

She said: “I don’t know my half-sib­lings be­cause of him. I just wish his death brings us to­gether.”

STARRSTRUC­K Trudy & Fred­die in 90s

HEARTBREAK Tara Cole­manS­tarr weaps yes­ter­day as she re­calls her father, Fred­die

EARLY DAYS Fred­die w ith baby Tara – but he was soon to walk out on her

HITLER SKETCH Fred­die at the height of TV ca­reer

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