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I’ve stripped away my sexy hang-ups

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When I was asked to take part in a cam­paign ask­ing women “What does sexy mean to you?” I had to have a good think about it.

That word “sexy” is not some­thing I as­so­ciate with my­self. But why do I have such a hang-up?

Be­ing mo­lested at the age of 13 by a fam­ily mem­ber ob­vi­ously hasn’t helped. It means I re­gard the word “sexy” as an in­vi­ta­tion for un­wanted at­ten­tion from men.

I have also al­ways strug­gled with the main­stream view of what a woman is sup­posed to wear and look like in or­der to be called sexy.

Women’s mag­a­zines are full of red lips, smoky eyes, short skirts, high boots and lit­tle else.

So grow­ing up in a body that was the com­plete op­po­site of the long-legged, big­boobed, tiny-waisted ideal, I never thought I could ever be con­sid­ered sexy.

In any case, for many women of my gen­er­a­tion, to want to be sexy was frowned upon. A “sexy” woman was seen as cheap, loose and not very in­tel­li­gent.

But as I have ma­tured and

See­ing me and my body was a kick up the butt

be­come more com­fort­able in my own skin, I have started to feel more sexy. I now re­alise it’s t’s not about what you wear.

Be­ing sexy is about your con­fi­dence, your self-es­teem, your ur tal­ents, your life ex­pe­ri­ences s and your achieve­ments. ments.

And it’s about ut your abil­ity to love e who you are.

Once you feel el sexy, you are sexy, whether you’re wear­ing the most beau­tieau­ti­ful lin­gerie or the scruffi­est jeans. s.

Feel­ing sexy, y, want­ing to be sexy and be­ing sexy exy is nor­mal – it’s how a woman con­nects nects with her fem­i­nin­ity. nin­ity.

But many of us in our 50s and be­yond, whose e bod­ies have changed anged through preg­nancy nancy and menopause, don’t feel sexy at all. We just feel em­bar­rassed, assed, in­vis­i­ble and over­looked.

I felt like that un­til this week – when I fully em­braced what at sexy means to me.

With the help of my nine-year-yearold daugh­ter, who filmed ed me ev­ery day, I have been putting my­self out there on so­cial me­dia.

A menopausal mum of 50, in beau­ti­ful un­der­wear from lin­gerie firm Figleaves, send­ing the mes­sage that re­gard­less of race, re­li­gion or sex­ual ori­en­ta­tion, you are beau­ti­ful and sexy if you al­low your­self to be.

I ex­pected lewd and gross com­ments.

But I re­ceived hun­dreds of pos­i­tive mes­sages from women.

See­ing me in my far­fromper­fect body say­ing I feel sexy was the kick up the butt they needed to fo­cus on them­selves.

I loved do­ing my sexy week on In­sta­gram. It was so em­pow­er­ing.

And it’s given me a whole new at­ti­tude: This is me, this is how I do it and I’m not for chang­ing.

Be­ing sexy? I’m ab­so­lutely lov­ing it.

His “Rock on, Tommy” catch­phrase im­me­di­ately takes me back to my child­hood when I would sit with my fam­ily in front of the telly on Satur­day nights, watch­ing Can­non and Ball.

But this week we had to say a sad RIP to the dou­ble act’s cheeky chappy Bobby Ball, who died aged 76, af­ter catch­ing Covid-19.

Bobby was my ab­so­lute favourite with his daft fa­cial ex­pres­sions, per­fect com­edy tim­ing and abil­ity to make you cry one minute and laugh the next.

So thank you for the joy you gave me and my fam­ily, Bobby. It re­ally was an hon­our and ab­so­lute plea­sure to watch you per­form.

 ??  ?? RED HOT Me in my lin­gerie
RED HOT Me in my lin­gerie

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