What Alec has to say on the matter
Default parenting is a term that has been bandied around a lot recently. Initially I wasn’t happy with it as it made me seem like I wasn’t pulling my weight.
However, in reality, it is a thing. It’s not an intentional thing and I do believe that I am a great dad and do my fair share of the parenting tasks but, somehow, with Charlotte having been home initially when we had the kids, she has ended up taking on the majority of the life admin.
I work full-time to provide for our family and now that Charlotte is also working, I try to do a bit more where I can, but things like classes, school stuff and parties have just always been something that she’s done and it’s stayed that way, despite her going back to work. Again, it’s not an intentional thing – and I really do plan to try to even out the workload.