The need for a more loving attitude

Sir, I wish to add my voice to Simon Tillotson’s (Letters, 27 January) in calling for a more respectful and loving attitude in matters of theological and ethical debate, and particularly on the issues of human sexuality.

Like Simon, I find myself torn between my interpretation of certain scriptural texts and the very clear commands to love my neighbour as myself (without qualification), to love other disciples as Jesus loves me, and to do unto others as I would be done by. I am reminded that Jesus’ harshest criticisms were for those who believed they had everything tied down, and that one of these criticisms was that they laid burdens on others but would not lift a finger to help. Where the Hebrew scriptures see holiness as rather fragile, in Jesus it seems far more robust, able to take in association with all sorts.

At one level, I rather envy those who harbour no doubts. But in conscience, and after many years of wrestling with the issues, I still find the hermeneutic epitomised in Steve Chalke’s recent article unconvincing. Yet, like Steve and Simon, I also see in my gay and lesbian friends clear evidence of the Holy Spirit at work in Jesus-centred lives.

One thing is, however, clear to me. Strident proclamation of defined positions is not the way forward, so please let us create safe space where we can listen to one another and share both theology and experience without demonising or de-churching others who may think differently from us. The Rev Simon Nicholls, Markfield, Leicestershire