DR DEBI’S TIPS FORA TROUBLE-FREE BUILD
Set aside some time together, you will find it easier to sort through details, catch up with one another and make decisions together.
Translate one negative comment into a tactful nonpersonal statement in your mind. Prevent yourself from practising “grudge talk” inside your own head.
You will be faced with some interesting stresses in the chaos you encounter. Do not sweat that stress arrives; you are going to need to renovate those inner walls, too.
Try to set up the day with rewards that follow tedious tasks. Break up the day, pace yourselves, let the kids know when they are released from obligatory clean-up. Assign someone to prepare the reward. Plan for balance.
If you have different ideas, you can measure which one of you feels most strongly about their preference, and then see if you can live with implementing some form of that preferred option. As a compromise, you can even divide up the final decision by having one person choose the colours, for example, while the other chooses the form.