Go Beyond’s fivepoint blueprint for a blended Christmas

1 Extend a warm welcome

Make the time to greet everyone as they arrive. Little personal touches like labelled water bottles can make all the difference. Gather everyone together for an informal icebreaker. Get them to say their name and their favourite ice cream flavour – fervent agreement and lively disagreement will ensue.

2 Establish boundaries

Children (and adults) will be happier and feel more secure if they know what’s expected of them. That could be a ban on mobile phones at various points during the day, being respectful to one another or a three-line whip on a big walk after lunch or taking part in charades later.

3 Give everyone a job

Some youngsters love to help, other are more reluctant. If they can’t choose something for themselves, put them in charge of tidying away toys or making sure any glasses and mugs left on surfaces are taken to the kitchen for washing up.

4 Stay in the moment

Don’t show all your cards at once. If there’s a major treat in store such as a pantomime or a trip to see Santa, don’t tell the children too early or they won’t appreciate the other activities you’ve got lined up. Don’t be tempted to over-schedule however; everyone needs space and time to play with their new toys and a little boredom can spur the imagination.

5 Praise, praise and praise again

Keep an eye on the children, giving them feedback on good behaviour. Compliment them on things they’ve done well and make the effort to spend time with them individually, so they can feel a pride in how much you cherish them and enjoy their company. Praise makes everyone feel better.