GRAHAM NORTON AGONY UNCLE
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as you compare the woman you have become with those that catch his eye.
Clearly your husband doesn’t see any problem with his behaviour. I’m sure that he bats away your criticisms with phrases like “It’s not hurting anyone” or “Who doesn’t like a compliment?”. I think you need to explain to your husband that the problem with his behaviour is that the person it upsets is you – his wife. If he cares about you why would he deliberately continue to do something that distresses you? Hopefully he can understand that his “innocent” flirting makes you feel very vulnerable, and as your partner that is the polar opposite of what his behaviour should be doing. He is supposed to be your cheerleader, so remind him to do his job.
Ultimately, you will be doing him a favour. You may feel age has altered your sexual dynamic, but it will also change his. At some point, every man ceases to be seen as a thrusting Lothario or a “player”, and is recast, whether he likes it or not, in the role of either a harmless avuncular figure or a creepy old man. Save him from himself!