The day Prince Harry told me off for wearing trainers at the Palace
It is disrespectful to expect women to totter around in discomfort
God bless Emma Thompson breaking royal protocol this week by showing up at Buckingham Palace to accept her damehood in a pair of trainers. This was not the first time the actress had flouted a dress code, having once thrown off her Louboutins on the red carpet of the Golden Globes, announcing: “I just want you to know, this red? It’s my blood…”
That day, she spoke for every woman who has ever had to spend an evening feeling as if she were walking on hot coals, just so she fitted perfectly into some oldfashioned notion of female beauty, if not the five-inch stilettos that are giving her blisters. For make no mistake: heels are a tyranny that we are, finally, beginning to fling off, vaguely in the direction of the patriarchy. Yes, this is a column about heels and feminism. Happy Saturday!
Some might say that it was disrespectful to rock up to the Palace in trainers; but I would argue it is disrespectful of society to expect women to totter around in a state of permanent discomfort on stilts that give them bunions.
The glorious picture of Thompson receiving her damehood from Prince William reminded me of the time when I turned up to a reception at St James’s Palace wearing an emerald-green dress teamed with a pair of white trainers covered in fluff. I liked these trainers. They cheered me up at a time when I was feeling a bit down (I had just gone into rehab). They were comfortable, and fun, and looked a bit like Statler and Waldorf from The Muppets.
I had no idea that trainers were not the done thing in royal palaces; I knew that it probably wouldn’t have looked great arriving in my beaten-up running shoes covered in that morning’s mud, but these were box-fresh, dazzlingly white and the height of fashion (or the height of fashion in Zara, at the very least). Anyway, there I was, enjoying the canapés and the speeches about the work that mental health charity Heads Together was doing, when I noticed Princes William and Harry giggling together and looking in my direction. I thought to myself: “Don’t be paranoid, Gordon. They’re not laughing at you. THE WORLD DOES NOT REVOLVE AROUND YOU. They’re just enjoying some family in-joke.”
But after the speeches Prince Harry came up to me, and guess what? It turned out they were laughing at me, or my shoes, to be precise. “You know you’re not supposed to wear trainers to palaces,” Prince Harry laughed, before adding, with a cheeky glint in his eye, that it was OK, “because you’re wearing your slippers”. My slippers and I left feeling “seen”, as the young folk like to say.
Last year I found myself at the Mind Media Awards, presenting a prize to a student journalist. I tottered to the stage and narrowly escaped collapsing into the lectern. When, to my surprise, I won an award half an hour later, I decided to go up with no shoes on. It may not have looked good, but it looked a lot better than a leg in a plaster cast. My husband laughs at the trend for athleisurewear – mums who do the school run in sports gear without any actual intention of doing sports – but he doesn’t understand how unusual it is for a woman to feel comfortable when out of the house; how liberating it is to walk as God intended, and not with your hips tilted at an angle that gives you lower back pain, the balls of your feet burning with the weight on them. For a long time, the only acceptable alternative to heels was a pair of ballet flats that would disintegrate in the rain and offered all the support of a flipflop. The trend for fashionable trainers is a boon for those of us who want to look smart without also risking plantar fasciitis. There are, of course, women who say they like high heels because it puts them on an even keel with men, height-wise. I get that. But I also can’t get away from the study published earlier this year which found that the reason men find women in heels so attractive is because it makes you arch your back, which signals that you are ready for sex.
Heels were, ironically, originally worn by men as a status symbol, but then they were forsaken for their frivolity. After that it was only acceptable for fluffy, emotional women to wear such an impractical form of fashion.
The times are, once more, changing. Elizabeth Semmelhack of the Bata Shoe Museum in Toronto believes that once women achieve true equality, then men might start wearing heels again. For the sake of everyone’s feet, we must hope not.