Michelle Obama’s advice for Duchess of Sussex: ‘Don’t be in such a hurry’
After rumours of royal temper tantrums and rows, the former First Lady tells Meghan to slow down
IT IS surprisingly prescient advice, given the slew of recent allegations made about the Duchess of Sussex’s forthright demeanour and demands.
And if there is any truth in the anecdotes that have been issuing forth from behind palace walls detailing “ghastly” rows with the Duchess of Cambridge, her sister-in-law, temper tantrums over tiara choices and staff reduced to tears, she may take note.
Michelle Obama, the former American First Lady and a long-term friend of the Duke of Sussex, has suggested that the Duchess take her foot off the gas, slow down and remember she is in it for the long haul.
Asked if she had any advice for the new royal, Mrs Obama drew on her own experience of having every move subjected to public scrutiny.
“Like me, Meghan probably never dreamt that she’d have a life like this, and the pressure you feel – from yourself and from others – can sometimes feel like a lot,” she told Good Housekeeping magazine.
“So my biggest pieces of advice would be to take some time and don’t be in a hurry to do anything. I spent the first few months in the White House mainly worrying about my daughters, making sure they were off to a good start at school and making new friends, before I launched into any ambitious work.
“There’s so much opportunity to do good with a platform like that – and I think Meghan can maximise her impact for others, as well as her own happiness, if she’s doing something that resonates with her personally.”
Mrs Obama is in the UK today on a whistle-stop tour to promote her new memoir, Becoming, and will meet children at Elizabeth Garrett Anderson School in Islington before speaking at the Royal Festival Hall, London.
She and her husband enjoy such a close relationship with the Duke and Duchess of Sussex that they were rumoured to be joining the royal couple for a dinner hosted by George and Amal Clooney at their riverside mansion in Berkshire tomorrow night. But Palace sources suggested that tales of the star-studded dinner party were wide of the mark.
Contrary to reports that the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge will spend Christmas apart from the Duke and Duchess of Sussex, a source said both couples would be at Sandringham together. The source told the Daily Mail: “[Prior] reports regarding Christmas are wrong. Everyone is in Norfolk this year.”
Mrs Obama announced yesterday that she was cutting short her European tour to return to the US for the funeral of the former US president George HW Bush on Wednesday.
Mrs Obama recounts in the interview how she struggled to keep up with life in the White House.
“Thankfully I get more (and more regular) sleep these days,” she said. “But it probably won’t come as a surprise to anyone that sometimes it was a real challenge to keep up with the pace.”
She said she, her husband and daughters, Sasha, 17, and Malia, 20, had a wonderful life in the White House but added that she was grateful they all “came out of those eight years in one piece”.
Mrs Obama admitted that she thought many things were harder for young women today, but said that they were not held back by “societal belief that girls and boys can’t do the same thing”.
‘Like me, Meghan probably never dreamt that she’d have a life like this, and the pressure you feel’