Make mine a mocktail: life without Foma
Beware ‘euphoric recall’ Describing our tendency to remember only the good times, euphoric recall is likely to kick in when contemplating yet another sober Saturday night. Instead of focusing on what you’re “denying” yourself, shift your perspective to what sobriety is cultivating in your life.
Play it forward Ask yourself: how will drinking tonight make me feel in an hour? By the end of the night? Tomorrow? How will my mood and productivity be affected in the days to come? Honest answers to these questions will help you to abstain.
Embrace sober firsts The temptation when faced with Foma is to cancel your social life until further notice and/or you’ve worked out how not to drink without feeling like a total loser. Rather, RSVP “yes” to each invitation that comes along (especially to weddings, hen dos, big birthdays and weekend getaways) and prove to yourself that you do not need alcohol to socialise. Each event will help to rewire your thinking about drinking.
Drink this instead When you feel like you’re drowning in soda and lime, try alcohol-free beer, tonic water with bitters, or a Seedlip mocktail – all grownup options that have a pleasing placebo effect. Don’t judge It’s virtually impossible. But how those drunken idiots who used to be your friends choose to waste their weekends, flush their youth down the toilet, and poison their bodies with toxic chemicals is none of your business. Keep how good you feel to yourself.