Broadchurch star reveals how loss of child almost ended her marriage
BROADCHURCH star Sarah Parish has said the loss of her baby daughter almost ended her marriage.
Her daughter Ella-Jayne died in 2009 when she was just eight months old.
The actress and her husband James Murray were devastated by the loss of the child, who was born with Rubinstein-Taybi syndrome which causes heart defects, and Parish has said it almost destroyed their relationship.
Writing in the Daily Mail, Parish, 48, said: “Such an incredible loss inevitably puts an enormous strain on a relationship because people grieve in different ways.
“It would take the most emotionally mature people to be able to cope in that situation, and to comfort one another in the correct way.
“I can only say now, eight later, that I’m not sure we were able to do that at the time. We have made mistakes and done things that don’t work for each other – and you either end up together, or you don’t.”
Parish said they might not be together had they not created a charity, the Murray Parish Trust, in memory of their daughter. She wrote: “It has given us something to focus on and it has most definitely been good for our relationship. I hope that by speaking out now, I may help other couples who find themselves in that same sad position, and that something positive might come out of something so tragic.”
She added: “The pressure of grief is such that either you end up separating or, miraculously, you don’t. Jim and I have remained together despite some terrible, terrible times.
“We have our problems like any other couple. But we made some decisions which ultimately helped bring us through to the other side intact.”
The couple are now parents to daughter Nell, seven, who was born 10 months after EllaJayne died.